The Girl’s Guide To Being A Boss (Without Being a Bitch) by Caitlin Friedman and Kimberly Yorio
As women, we haven’t always had the best role models at work. We’ve either worked for men or we’ve had female bosses who are, well, big bitches. Woman still don’t have much of a road map right now when it comes to taking charge at the office, so the team who brought you the national bestseller The Girl’s Guide to Starting Your Own Business is drawing one for us. Caitlin Friedman and Kimberly Yorio will teach you to be powerful without being possessive, to be opinionated without being brassy, and to have a strong voice without micromanaging. You’ll learn just how to own the role of queen bee in a positive way so that you can be more mentor than manager, one who leads, inspires, and motivates.So, you finally got that promotion. You’re the boss now. The supervisor. The manager. The captain. The taskmaster. Those days of taking orders, running errands, and clock-watching are over. As exciting as all this might seem, once the rush of the promotion is over, you might be scratching your head wondering exactly what to do. Being the boss is never easy, but it’s twice as hard for a woman. It seems like there’s no middle ground. Either you’re the dragon lady who rules with an iron fist or the mousey girl who gets drowned out at every meeting. When a woman wields authority and dares to make tough decisions, how often is the “B-word” bandied about by her employees? How can she strike that balance between pushover and dictator?
It’s hard to believe but I’ve been a Federal Government employee for almost TEN years! WOW. I’ve worked my way up from a lowly GS-04 and earned every bit of my success along the bumpy way. With that being said, this IS a public blog, and not a place I’m going to discuss my job at length- other than saying that I absolutely love my job and the flexibility and security it brings. My boss is my personal and professional mentor and someone I look up to with respect every day. She motivates me and gives me the autonomy and trust I need to shine. She believes in me and challenges me.
Because people I work with will eventually read this, I’m not going to editorialize too much. I liked this book. It would make a nice reference guide for young women entering college and beginning to make a place for themselves through internships or in the corporate arena. I just wish it went more into the communication techniques required to deal with touchy situations. I guess that’s my background coming through again- incase you couldn’t already tell, I have a degree in Communication and Public Relations. I am so acutely aware of how impactful communication is, I chose my words carefully. Because I’ve been in my office’s dynamic environment for so long, a lot of the things in this book were a bit common sense. They were things I’ve already learned through “on the job training”. The ideas of “baptism by fire” or “being thrown into the shark invested waters” are things I’ve all experienced.
I loved the section on team building because it’s one of the tools I use regularly to get my team and our customers energized on the job. It’s proven 100% successful for me. I highly recommend every office employ some sort of teambuilding mechanism, whether playing with legos or solving brainteasers as teams.
One fun takeaway I will share from the teambuilding section is the following list of team roles below.
“The key to good, efficient teams is to create a healthy balance of these individuals or to identify the roles that you need your team members to play even if that’s not their natural role”~ Meredith Belbin, author of Management Teams: Why They Succeed or Fail
I’m challenging you! Ask your self “which role do I play at my place of business?”. Pretty thought-provoking, yes? Leave me a comment below with which role you play and how. Are you satisfied with that, or do you strive for more?
You can leave your comment anonymously if you prefer, no right or wrong answer, you’re a winner in my book! 🙂
The Plant: Original thinkers, generate new ideas, offer solutions.
The Resource Investigator: Creative, take ideas and run w/them. Extroverted and popular.
The Coordinator: Highly disciplined and controlled, focus on objectives, they unify a team.
The Shaper: Achievement oriented, like to be challenged and get results.
The Monitor Evaluator: Analyze and balance and weigh, calm and detached, objective thinkers.
The Team Worker: Supportive and cooperative, make good diplomats, want what is best for team.
The Implementer: Good organizational skills, display common sense, like to get the job done.
The Completer: Check details, tidy up after themselves, painstakingly conscientious.
The Specialist: Dedicated to acquiring a specialized skill, extremely professional, possess drive and dedication.
*If I were to have reviewed this 10 years ago though, I would probably would have given this 5 stars.
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In progress: Raven Stole The Moon, Memoirs of a Geisha (audiob00k)